Anytime you get advice from forums or professionals on healthy/successful relationships, the number one thing you are going to hear about is communication! Communication is key in any relationship. Not just any communication though, healthy communication. Being able to communicate with your parents, friends, spouse, or children, can all be difficult because it requires so much more than talking about your feelings. It involves knowing the person on the opposite end of a conversation, understanding their perspective and how they view things, knowing what battles to fight and what to leave alone, and just knowing HOW to get what you want to say out and to them in the least offensive way possible.
So how do we open a line of communication with God? Prayer. In my post “Understanding Your Spiritual Ear” I went over all the ways God can communicate with YOU. But if you haven’t opened your end of the communication line, how will you be able to hear from God? Prayer is the telephone we use to call God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit when we need comfort, healing, a blessing, help, answers, and much more. But prayer isn’t just something to be used when you are at the bottom of the barrel. It’s not a back up when everything else you have tried has failed, it should be the first thing you do. It should also be a constant, on going, open line of communication.
Me and my boyfriend typically see each other most nights. After I get off work, he comes over and we hang out or talk or go on a date, whatever we feel like doing that evening. Needless to say, we see each other at least 5 times a week. We don’t, however, only communicate when we see each other those 5 times a week, for how ever many hours those may be. We text each other in the morning, and throughout the day depending on the conversations that may randomly come up. We also talk on the phone once a day around lunch time just to check in. That’s how we practice communicating, we communicate via different channels and times. So what am I saying? You can’t expect your communication with God to get better if you only communicate with Him when you’re in church on Sunday, or at Bible Study during the week. It requires more effort than a 2 second “bless this meal” when it’s time to eat. (Can I let you in on a little secret?) It even requires more than your morning and night time prayers (when you remember to say them). God wants constant communication. (1 Thessalonians 5:17)
But why? Why would you want to communicate with God all day? Dr. Myles Monroe has a great book entitled “Understanding The Purpose and Power of Prayer” and in the book he breaks down the purpose for prayer, the power in prayer, the model in which you should pray, and my favorite part of the book: the Principles of Prayer.
Principles are essential in life today. You’re friend may eat the last cupcake from your birthday without asking, a cupcake you may have not even intending on actually eating. You aren’t upset that the cupcake was eaten, you’re upset at the PRINCIPLE that it was YOUR cupcake and what if you HAD wanted to eat it? Principles have benefits. Prayer has benefits. I suggest getting a copy of Mr. Monroe’s book to grasp a great understanding on the principles and how they may work in your life. But in the mean time let me show you an example.
In 1 Chronicles 4:9-10 you meet a young man named Jabez. Through this one scripture (v. 10), you find how prayer benefits you!
Having an open line of communication and prayer life with you gives you access to:
- A Blessed Life
Bruce Wilkinson in his book “The Prayer of Jabez” breaks down all of the things that took place with the small, simple prayer Jabez prayed. You see your prayer life doesn’t have to be super extravagant, nor does it have to include you being in a state of prayer for a consecutive hour (though sometimes it may). Prayers and communication with God, especially throughout the day can be simple.
“God help me”
“God I love you”
“Lord forgive me”
“Lord, I appreciate you”
“God can you just get me through the day”
God just wants to hear from you. I, personally, enjoy it the most when my boyfriend calls me just to let me know he was thinking about me. Or I get a random text from a friend that just says “been praying for you”. God wants to know that you remember Him. And how do you get better at remembering to keep that line of communication open?
I encourage you this week to set aside a few minutes, a few times a day to just acknowledge God. Set alarms if you have to. But test out how keeping that line open enhances your spiritual ear, your relationship with God, and the blessings you see at work in your life!
Both books listed above can be found here: